Making sense of our kids: A week with Gordon Neufeld
We are thrilled to host Dr Gordon Neufeld in September 2017. He is a Vancouver-based developmental psychologist with over 40 years of experience with children, youth and those responsible for them. A foremost authority on child development, Dr Neufeld is an international speaker and a best-selling author (Hold On to Your Kids).
His Neufeld Institute is now a world-wide charitable organisation devoted to applying developmental science to the task of raising children. Dr Neufeld is married with five children, and six grandchildren.
During his week with us in September, he will be facilitating a series of workshops, including – The surprising thing about attachment, Making sense of pre-schoolers (and anyone who acts like one), How to take the lead in your child’s digital world and, What’s making our kids so angry? Find out more below.
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Event 1: Making Sense of Attachment: Surprising solutions to age old problems
Wednesday, 20 September | 7-9pm (evening seminar) | $25
Even though today’s society does not reflect it, there is a growing consciousness that attachment is both our preeminent need as well as the context in which children are meant to be raised. What still surprises many people however is that children are not born with the capacity for relationship – it must be developed. Furthermore, while this development may be spontaneous, it is not inevitable. Unfortunately too many children fail to grow out of superficial ways of pursuing contact and closeness, and for some reason, this number seems to be growing.
Event 2: Making sense of pre-schoolers (and anyone who acts like one)
Thursday, 21 September | 9am-4pm (all day seminar) | $125
No one is more susceptible to being misunderstood than the preschooler. Precocious, brazen, obsessive, endearing, hysterical, impulsive, anxious, delightful, unreflective, dogmatic, generous, unstable, aggressive, resistant, compulsive, and anything but consistent – the preschooler could qualify for any number of personality and behaviour disorders. Unlike infants and toddlers, preschoolers actually bear a resemblance to grown-ups and therefore fool us into thinking that they are much more like us than they really are. Projecting our psychology onto them is a typical mistake. To make sense of the preschooler is to make sense of the very essentials of human development. Once the primary principles of development are appreciated together with their purpose, the developmental deficits that plague the preschooler become transparent and understandable. Rather than pushing them to be other than who they are, we can celebrate their differences. Instead of trying to get them to grow up, we can attend to providing the conditions that are conducive to their transformation. Knowing what preschoolers need from us is the key to knowing how to interact with them. The title of this course may be misleading as it would suggest a 2-5 year age range only. In fact, understanding the preschooler is key to making sense of immaturity at any age.
Event 3: Making Sense of the Digital World: How to take the lead
Thursday, 21 September | 7-9pm (evening seminar) | $25
The digital world is here to stay, changing our society in a ways that have far reaching consequences for our children. What are the implications for parenting? How do we harness the spectacular connecting potential and yet avoid the pitfalls of attachment technology gone awry? How do we prepare them to live in this new world and yet preserve what is required for healthy development to take place? We have followed our children into the digital world and yet for their sakes as well as ours, need to restore our lead in order to avoid the insidious dangers that live in the shadows of this potent technology. Dr. Neufeld will look at the digital revolution as a developmentalist committed to helping parents help their children become all they were meant to be.
Event 4: Making Sense of Anger and Aggression in our Children
Friday, 22 September | 9am-4pm (all day seminar) | $125
One of the foremost interpreters of the developmental approach tackles one of the oldest and most perplexing of human problems, exposing its deep developmental roots and revealing why conventional approaches to the problem are so ineffective. There are many indications that this problem is escalating among our children and youth. What tends to grab our attention is the more violating acts of aggression but what is truly alarming is the ground swell of attacking energy within and between our kids that erupts in their interaction, music, language, play, games and fantasies. This attacking energy is also fueling an alarming increase in suicide and suicidal ideation among children. Dr. Neufeld provides a way of understanding that not only explains what is happening around us but also provides insight into the individuals – both children and adults – who present with these problems. His approach is refreshingly sensible, historically accountable, and congruent with today’s science of the brain. His conceptual model has clear implications for practice and treatment and is applicable in any arena: home, school or in treatment.
If you would like tickets to all four events, the full registration cost is $250. See below for the full registration ticket.